What Matters To You?

What Matters To You?

 This weekend, I decided to create my own fashion statement that represents my personal convictions. When I walk in the room, people will know where I stand.

 I have been raising awareness for the lost practice of mathematical and logical reasoning for a few years now. I feel it is the human condition to react rather than pre-consider. You understand what I mean. 

 The status of logic as lost art came to my attention while observing the many conflicts of secular groups and individualist zealots all the way to conservative associations and traditional religious environments. 

 The problem I see is that our unique life experiences create differences. These differences cause friction and anger, of which I am the first to partake. We have forgotten that our individual biases, though real to us, are not truth. Our upbringing, education, and environment is so deeply ingrained in our identity that we subconsciously assume everything we have experienced is universal reality. We forget to hold everything we know and have been taught up to the light of truth and logic. God created logic. It absolutely is not the enemy.

Truth and logic are co-dependent. Without logic, we do not fully understand the truth. Without truth, logic is meaningless.

This is my voice. This is my fashion statement.

What is yours?

'Classic Cousin Street Style' Inspired by Kate


Alwaysm: When you get dressed in the morning, do you have a certain ‘look’ that you’re going for?

 Hailey Neds: “My favorite style person is Kate Middleton. So, I like a lot of her stuff. She’s very classic, so I usually have a lot of really classic pieces and then I like to go a bit different with my tops. Like, something on them that makes them a little bit different.”

 Alwaysm: Like polka dots!

 Hailey: “Yeah, like a zipper, and stuff like that. Just different things that kind of stand out. My pants are usually very simple. And I like shoes a lot."


Cool. So what is it about Kate Middleton’s style that attracts your eye?

 “I feel like part of it’s that it is really relatable. It’s something I feel like I could go and get at a store. I see a lot of celebrities wearing stuff, and I have no idea where I would buy that from. But with her I feel like I could go and actually pick something out at the store that is similar to what she’s wearing. I’m not super creative when it comes to wearing clothes, so I want something classic.”

 So then, do you feel like that classic style represents your personality?

 “Yeah. Because I’m not, like, super crazy or over the top.”

 So she says….


 “Yeah, so usually I just go with basics in clothes.”

 So , if you had the opportunity to change your style, you wouldn’t. You like your style.


 When did you realize that was your style?

 “Umm, I don’t know. Probably in the last few years. I’ve never been somebody who really liked trends. If I like it I’ll wear it, but I just kind of wear what I like. I have always been like that.”

 Cool. So if someone were to ask you to describe your style, would you have an answer?

 “Not really. Mostly, it’s what’s easy. I don’t like to get super complicated. I like to get a lot of pieces that are basic and mix and match. I need it to be quick because I’m always on-the-go.  I don’t really sit and think about my style a whole lot.”

 Yeah. Do you feel like defining your own style is something that you’d be interested in working toward?

 “Yeah! I’m always down. I love clothes, and I love finding things that go together. I’m not always great at picking things out to that go together, but I enjoy it. I’m really into accessories. Earrings are a big part of what I like to wear.

 Sweet. Last question. How do you feel about Napoleon Dynamite’s style?

*laughs* I have a Vote for Pedro shirt. 

 I’m voting for Pedro this year. He’s our only hope.

 “Help us, Pedro! You’re our only hope!”


Spontaneity is Key


 This one is for the dreamers, the losers who never seem to win. This is for the ones who know they were created for something so much bigger. This is for the discontent, for the seekers who refuse to give up until they find. This one is for the artists who will not be content to leave this world unless they've left their mark.

 Have you ever thought to yourself, "I really do not fit into the societal model"? Some of you just had a brain cramp, and some of you felt that instant recognition. If you understand, you are not alone. This is my reality. I am compelled to challenge the status quo. I have no fear in confronting the strong who take advantage of the weak. Something inside me will not sit down and shut up. This woman inside keeps rearing her socially unacceptable head. The hurting and dying inside of me is rising up for those who are like me. We will not be silent.

 Another way of putting it is, God gave me my own drum so I could march to the beat of it. "Beat a little louder for the people in the back!"

 Maybe you do not relate to this at all. You are a traditionalist. You are not fond of change or confrontation. You have a set time to complete things. You never miss your "quiet time", you're on time to church every week. Your life is structured. Power to you. Nothing wrong with that. I have envied you for most of my life.

 After trying to "structure" my life for over twenty years, I have embraced God's design for my life and my mind. He never intended for me to fit inside a mold. The world needs to know that this is not a problem. We are not a problem. Those like me are not a nuisance to society, or someone you cannot trust. Our rooms are messy, our minds are busy winning the Nascar race, and we definitely do not see the world the way that you do. We do not set aside a time to pray once a day. Our lives are a constant dialogue with God, including the silence and the anger. We are not "failing at spirituality", as if that was even a thing.

 If we as humans do not start opening our hearts and minds to the possibility that we are wrong, and that we've been wrong for decades, lives are going to continue to be lost. I know this for a fact because I have seen stigma and prejudice rear its repulsive head over and over like a sick, never ending song. Humility is calling.

 If you can relate to me, embrace who you are. That will never change. God makes no mistakes. Preach Truth to yourself when the world, your peers, your environment, society, and yes, even the church tell you otherwise. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.







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